Anyone else long term single and genuinely happy?

[brocklanders023]

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You probably haven't met them yet. I was a happy and content long term singly until I met my now wife. I do the cooking and I'm a bloke (if that's relevant)

Of course your age and length of long term single will have a significant bearing. Katie Price calls a week long term single

This for me. I was more than happy on my own for a good 10 years. Had flings and lots of fun but didn't find anyone I really wanted to spend all my time with so didn't!

Then four or so years ago I met my wife. We clicked straight away and that was that. Marriage, a son, a dog and a cat later and I wouldn't change a thing. Much better finding the right one rather than someone to stop you being on your own.

Only downside is that my single life was when I was most active on here. Don't have the time to play with old bikes much anymore.

 

[highlandsflyer]

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I personally don't see the need to justify being either single or not. I certainly can't see how anyone in either state can know how they would feel in the other currently.

I would say I don't think any relationship worth its salt involves being overly needy, but within a decent relationship one ought to be able to rely on one's partner. Not necessarily by necessity.

Eat what you want, relationships are not about diet control.

I have been single for a total of maybe two years since I was 13. Two out of 35 years. My choice, I just never felt the pressure to be single.

Relationships never really held me back in any way I was concerned about.

I could never see myself choosing to be single. Miss out on far too much.

 

[cce]

Single for around 8 years now. The odd fling, a few hookups.

It's brilliant. I'm in my 30s and I do whatever I want while my friends are at mothercare.

 

[LikeClockwork]

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There's some really interesting thoughts being aired on this, perhaps some I hadn't really considered at any stage. Certainly I'm not looking to find anyone, they would have to find me, and then make a pretty decent effort to prove themselves, but I'm starting to realise the reason I feel as I do is probably, as most of us are, I'm the sum total of my past experiences.

They haven't been very good when it comes to relationships, so I just decided to not bother any more. The overall consensus that when the 'right one' comes along, I'll change my mind, is one I am willing to go with now, whereas I had been vehemently opposed to that!

I also think we attract what we deserve, and in the past I had maybe been a little needy to be loved at any price, and therefore attracted some needy nutters

 

[LikeClockwork]

Single for around 8 years now. The odd fling, a few hookups.

It's brilliant. I'm in my 30s and I do whatever I want while my friends are at mothercare.

Then you say that, and sum it all up in a nutshell for me

Having never EVER wanted kids, there has never been the need for me to conform to a lot of the standard human behaviour...

 

[brocklanders023]

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It's funny how relationships happen as I had always flatly refused to go on any dates my friends tried to set me up with as it all seemed a bit sad but for some reason did when Beth came along. Written in the stars and all that!

I'm a very strong believer in things working out for the best if you don't try to force it. I have friends who since we were kids have never liked being on their own but have a string of long term failed relationships behind them. Think you've got it about right Clockwork.

 

[highlandsflyer]

Trotting out the cliches in good measure. No one is compelled to shop in Mothercare. Having kids does not render anyone devoid of individuality or non conforming behaviour.

The problem with threads like this is they inevitably become a self congratulatory pat on the back for the people who 'conform' to the norms of the originating poster.

 

[dyna-ti]

Trotting out the cliches in good measure. No one is compelled to shop in Mothercare. Having kids does not render anyone devoid of individuality or non conforming behaviour.

The problem with threads like this is they inevitably become a self congratulatory pat on the back for the people who 'conform' to the norms of the originating poster.

:cry: :cry: :cry:

 

[Chapeau! Velo]

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Perhaps this site should have dating thread 'retrodate' where singlys can ride each other's old bikes

Sorry, I'm not helping much :facepalm:

 

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