Although you’re feeling useless you can be one who makes all the difference when the time comes and be there in any way shape or form for the parents. They will also feel lost right now but when the time comes they will feel worse, my son would have been 8 this year and still feels like yesterday that he joined us asleep as we choose to call it when he was born.
I was in bits at the time couldn’t speak breathe or anything when the hospital asked us if we wanted to take him home or leave him with them till such a time as we was ready to make decisions, I didn’t want this as I had worked in a hospital as a porter and done the deceased run with adults and couldn’t bear the thought of him being in a room on his own, my wife wanted to leave him I went mad, as I felt like she had 9 months of getting to know him and I had nothing, eventually she agreed to let us take him home. This allowed me to have some bonding time with him I washed him dressed him and pretty much sat up all night holding him getting to know him and coming to terms with what had happened. It gave me the strength to arrange what needed to be done. I choose to make all arrangements for funeral and burial myself and not to the hospital.
The hospital will probably offer to make all arrangements and that for the family like Liverpool Women’s did for us, but what they don’t tell you is that they mass bury them so your child can end up with a few other people children this is something myself or my wife couldn’t bear the thought of either as we wanted somewhere we could call our own and eventually be with him when our own time comes.
so you will find there is a lot you can do for them if it isn’t already being taken care of you can advise them of these things help them make the important decisions for now and also for their future feelings and state of mind, make sure that someone has support for the father as they get forgotten about at this time as naturally most people flock around the mother and offer her all the support because the man’s role is to be strong and maybe he is but inside he won’t be and will need some form of support
It does put how insignificant the Bin Laden saga is when you think of a child in this way I to hope he isn’t suffering and that they enjoy what little time they have with him
Hope this helps
