But this is the problem: smileys are used instead of putting thought into a post and creating a well structured comment, they are used as a 'get out of jail card' ( I called you a c*nt, but I put a wink at the end!), they are used when people have no convictions in their argument and want to avoid upsetting people so they try and appease both sides.
I understand that yes they add and emotional element to an impersonal online forum, but I don't like conveying my emotions in a smile, a wink or a lol, to me that is symptomatic of the childish, vanilla flavoured nature of the web, and is all that I hate about facebook, myspace and the like (well that and the fact that Social Networking requires you to a) have friends and b) want to talk to them..).
Use words, not generic, broad brushstroke icons to display your feelings. Stand behind your arguments and to hell with everyone else, if someone has the passion and the time to construct a reasoned argument then have the courtesy to hear them out and amend your views if theirs are valid, but don't pander to their emotional insecurities by using a smiley to avoid upset.
The greatest thing that the Internet has to offer is that it brings together millions of people in discussion and argument, not in some coca-cola scented hippy world of love and harmony. if we constantly hark on about 'why can't we all get along' then we are missing the point of millions of years of human development-we are here because we challenge, fight and argue. Just look at the dodo, died out because it never knew when to fight or when to run away.
Now how's that: from smileys to dodos via human evolution in just a few short lines, and I've probably only managed to upset 90% of the people on here. Some say sociopath, others say honest with no inner dialogue to tell me when to shut up. Either way I just take my Citalopram and get on with things.
Just don't get me started on the overuse of exclamation marks or the self-indulgence, and over exaggeration of self-importance of excessive signatures in peoples posts......
Finally golderneramtb, I accept your one exception!