Aspergers traits ?....my odd behavior

[cchris2lou]

As the father of an autistic child I can safely say that most of you do not have an idea what it is like to live everyday with autism.

I work in a special need school and meet quite a lot of the parents and carers and I know it is not easy everyday .

 

[silverclaws]

I need a spork (in titainium if poss) it will cut out the confusion between , fork type dinner or spoon type dinner, cheers.

As for the other clip, makes me realize how much i've compensated over the years. I'd say 90% i totally related to. I'm not convincing my self of anything but whycan i relate so much to it ?

Loud noises but ace hearing , smells, details, tick, don't liked to be touched, tick, mt wife has to give me warning ! Can remember now being playgrounds and not knowing what to do, being called weirdo at about 9 cos i didn't play. Later in adult life, just hidding away apart from work. And definatly asking people emmbarresing stuff, not to insult them, i just wanted to know the truth, or say the obvious (i keep that in check if i can)

To be honest surprised i ever got married (only 5 1/2 years ago)

But there is one thing that doesn't fit......i can be empathetic to some people, well people in physical distress or exibiting signs of mental distress. That doen't fit does it ? Maybe i just notice something that needs to be fixed.

It is said as someone with AS gets older the AS can get better, and that by coping mechanisms, so late diagnosed are classed as mild through having already developed coping mechanisms with varying success, but as there is zero or little help for adult aspies, it is just a case of keep trying to get it right. The down side of that attitude is the damage it causes mostly to the self as constant not quite getting it right no matter how mant times tried and from whatever direction, is very wearing. Of course in this scenario the medical services are proficient and helpful, they are very willing with the anti depressants, but they don't solve anything, only round off the jagged edges for a while until one is rested enough to have another go at it.

As to aspies and empathy ;

http://aspergeradults.ca/Blog/2010/04/d ... or-others/

(note, it is an actual site for adults with this problem, which is very rare, as myself, fed up with reading about the kids who are doomed anyway, more so than the adults now are)

 

[silverclaws]

:?:

 

[greenstiles]

As a child i would hide fom visitors, other family, and god forbid a family photo, they would never find me.

I missed a year and a half of school, and when i went back to do my exams i wasn't on most teachers registers anymore. I hated school it was boring and smelt and there was too many people.

I used to break open most of my toys from an early age to see how they work or what was inside them (not popular) i would go to great lengths to do this.


Again from an early age boxes of toy soldiers would have limbs removed or burnt, not out of anger or nastyness, but in my mind how could they fight without injury.

ring any bells with either parties ?

 

[Magsy]

I can relate to many of these traits but I don't think I'm nuts. Its just diversity, a different, rarer skill set. I'm not saying you are all normal but like some of the other posters have mentioned, I feel there is a search to define and name some these traits as problems or illnesses, when in fact you are just different.

I don't like to interact unless the situation is forced (ie work, where I am quite loud) but left to my own devices I can entertain myself for many many weeks. I plan stuff to minute detail, I've over analyse, I often can't focus on people because my own brain is too loud, it doesn't stop 'thinking' ever and gets really annoying. I also liked to take anything and everything apart when I was a child. I always read about 5 webpages at once cos one just won't be enough to keep my attention. My other half of ten years can txt me and I just stare at the phone, many times if there is nothing to say, I'll say nothing. I have friends but I'm shit at actually making that a two way deal, I just don't keep it up yet enjoy their company when it 'happens' and we have a great time.

The thing is to realise there are many upsides to these traits. I have skills others do not, I can fix your car, bike, motorbike, computer, anything electronic right down to SMD soldering iron level, I almost always know something about anything, people have called me 'google' many times So many people I meet are useless, absolutely clueless and if the zombies were to strike tomorrow they would be good for bait only. Sure, they have some skills I do not but they are mostly people skills and I'm not going to be envious of that cos its just 'fluff'.

Retrobike straight jackets anyone?

 

[greenstiles]

Great stuff, thank you

 

[silverclaws]

I got to work on the positives of AS, like I can fix most things and make stuff out of whatever, I do have a business idea, MIND.org and the joke centre reckon is pretty unique and funding is there for machines, transport and location, but am locked in permanent groundhog day at the moment, repeating the same patterns and currently with no confidence in my abilities, so no point wasting people's money until I can sort this out.

Oh and repairing stuff, yeah I am self taught and that by taking stuff apart as a kid, it is how I learn new machines, but machines are like people and organisations, get an iffy bit and the organisation does not work at it's best, but having done management, perhaps best I don't do it again, as people get treated as machines and they don't like it.

 

[highlandsflyer]

Doesn't have to be like that though. Profit share schemes can imbue a greater sense of ownership amongst 'staff', as well as a family style environment.

It is a while since I was a boss; I think I was never taken seriously enough to piss anyone off.