most of us have been there.....felt like shit....and came out the other side. the kids always love both of you, this is one thing i've found out. with my ex, i thought it was normal to watch her smash the house up. even found myself smashing my own stuff so she couldn't. the sad thing is i thought this was normal as we were both so used to it. one day i went out for 10 mins to cool off (as i did most days) and never went back. i never planned to leave.....just never went back. i havn't had a row with anyone since. i'm so laid back natrually. familiarity breeds contempt. my daughters are adults now and no doubt have rows with thier blokes. life always works out ok in the end, something wisdom teaches you. the journey to happiness is shit at times, even now with my new mrs of 12 yrs, we've split up, re-evaluated, realised we love each other, and sorted our shit out. everyone i know is the same.....that's all i can say really