Funny, some years ago, I've mentioned my problems on here before, I went through a severe mental breakdown including SH and my GP said to me one day "I'd like a social worker to come and visit you" I agreed, I didn't see the point but I agreed anyway. A week later this woman appeared at my door after the children had got home from school, on entering the house one of my children said "Who are you?" And she replied " Hello, I'm one of your mum's friends" I got a very funny questioning look from said child. I replied by saying to the social worker "How stupid do you think children are?" and then I said to said child "She is a social worker, and she has come to see if I am looking after you correctly and if you have any complaints about me now's the time to say so," said child replied with "Oh" and walked off.
The final report did say though, that the house was a bit untidy, I agree it was just a bit, not dirty, just a bit untidy but the children appeared to be living in a loving, caring family. And they were and still are.
There is no point in lying to children, they know and I believe in total honesty with my children, I don't go into blow by blow descriptions but just let them now where they stand and that they are loved and that they can ask about anything they want to ask about. My mum said that a child is old enough to know the answer when he/she is old enough to ask the question, my philosophy also.
Alison
The final report did say though, that the house was a bit untidy, I agree it was just a bit, not dirty, just a bit untidy but the children appeared to be living in a loving, caring family. And they were and still are.
There is no point in lying to children, they know and I believe in total honesty with my children, I don't go into blow by blow descriptions but just let them now where they stand and that they are loved and that they can ask about anything they want to ask about. My mum said that a child is old enough to know the answer when he/she is old enough to ask the question, my philosophy also.
Alison