Corsarob, this isn't directed at you, it's justa few questions anyone should ask themselves.
If you are unhappy in a marriage/relationship why the F


k stay in it ?
If you don't have any real feelings for your wife/husband why stay with them ? For the kids ? What a stupid mistake that is all you'll do is have unhappy kids, do you wnat your kids to be unhappy ?
Why do you smash things up during rows ? Is it to redirect the violence you feel towards your other half ? or because you are still to immature to be in a relationship with anybody and it's the actions of a spoilt child not getting their own way ?
The whole kids, mortgage, shitty job thing. Why do it if it makes your life a misery ? Because it's what you are meant to do ? Says who ?
Thing with having kids, how many people have kids with someone at a young age, grow up and split up. If I was a benevolent dictator, no kids before the age of 28 and live together for 3 years before getting married and be married for 3 years before having kids.
I don't care what anyone says even at 21 you are still nowhere near mature enough to be responsible to have a child.
Don't think I'm being sanctimonious or holier than thou, I smashed the F


k out of my pride and joy Landcruiser because of an argument with my ex all to stop me beating her to death. You cannot tell me that that is normal. The others, we just wanted different things one wanted a career and to settle down while I wanted to carry on travelling, the other wanted kids, I didn't, yes there were a few arguments but it's better to split up than to get into a situation that you know will make you unhappy just because your partner (hate that word) wants something that you do not I wasted a F


k of a lot of time before I figured that out..
I met my wife (we aren't married but...) totally out of the blue, we have been together for 7 years, have had 1 argument about lino, and are together pretty much 24hrs a day, she is my best freind and it's precisely because of the other relationships that I realise what a amazing person she is and can fully appreciate the position I'm in.
And I still get blow jobs.