Undoing the big nut is relatively easy, best to try tightening it slighlty first I have found though. I clamped the nut in some soft jaws in a vice, then turned the end of the body.
Removing the shaft from the valve body is more tricky if you need to reuse the shaft, you really need the correct size tube clamp. As you are replacing it then it does not matter if the old one gets damaged, so a big pair of grips should do it.
There is a special tool to help insert the new shaft through the big nut, I managed to use a 1-1/8" to 1" steerer shim to do the same thing though.
There is no need for any of it to be done up stupidly tight when you reassemble, just use a bit of thread lock.
If the existing shaft is worn on the top then I suspect that the eccentric pivot and bushes are worn out.
These need replacing before you use the shock again else it will destroy the new shaft very quickly.
I still need to get a new pivot myself, never got a response back from Risse about that so was going to get some made locally.
Good luck!