confidence question ?

[silverclaws]

For those who are confident in their occupation, how are you confident, does it come naturally, or do you do anything to gain the confience you need to maintain your occupation ?

I ask, as with my self employment desires, I am currently going up and down like a yo yo, some days I am on top of the world and can do anything, other days I am on the verge of sickening panic with the overwhelming desire to run away, so I was wondering can anyone else relate and what do they do to find some middle ground in this.

 

[dbmtb]

Pending financial backing, I'm on the verge of starting my own business at the moment.

I think the ups and downs and panic attacks about whether or not it'll all work out go with the territory. There's so much to sort out and plan.

So far in my life I've played it safe and held down secure jobs - this is more of a risk and very very new to me.

Don't worry about it - if it's a good idea, it'll work. If it's not, it still might work. At the end of the day - if you don't believe in yourself, then how do you expect to convince your backers and your customers?

 

[Piperdave]

For those who are confident in their occupation, how are you confident, does it come naturally, or do you do anything to gain the confience you need to maintain your occupation ?

I ask, as with my self employment desires, I am currently going up and down like a yo yo, some days I am on top of the world and can do anything, other days I am on the verge of sickening panic with the overwhelming desire to run away, so I was wondering can anyone else relate and what do they do to find some middle ground in this.

This is normal, don't worry about it.

I am confidant in my job because i know i have had good training, and because i want to be better than the rest, so i set myself a very high standard.

Be the best you can be, you will soon rise above the others....


Dave

 

[IDB1]

When I worked I was confident all day, every day, in my job..

Didn't need to blow my own trumpet because, according to my superiors, I was s**t hot at the job...

Shame it was I.T. - the absolute pits of career choices.

 

[MikeD]

Get as much as you can done on the "up" days

 

[pigman]

if you constantly thought it was easy, you will fail. Over confidence will be your downfall.
Fear is what regulates you, keeps you sane and is your protector. A tightrope walker with no fear will make mistakes (fatal). One with fear will give it the due consideration and survive.

 

[Stick Legs]

Confidence comes from knowlege and fore thought.
The US Military use the adage:
Plan the plan,
Train the plan,
Fight the plan.

It works, think it through, work everything out at the most disadvatageous to you (taxes, losses, interest rates etc) and if it still breaks even then GO!

I am a Navigating Officer in the Merchant Navy, there are so many variables at sea, but if you can pin down everything you can then whatever left is fated.

Most of the time I am very confident in my own descision making, this is contagious and the Capt relies on my calculations and passage planning as I have never given him reason to doubt it.

The last time I was genuinely not confident I had rushed my preparation on the approach to a narrow channel, when I got there the tide was 2kts across the entrance, wind was force 6-7 from astern and the vizibility was less than 2 miles. I had anticipated being able to visually asses my progress and had not bothered to chart and prepare radar targets etc as well as I would normally do. Never doing that again! Everything worked out ok, but a bit of luck and thank GOD for GPS!!!!

I have been at sea for 16 years, Trained for 4 and have been a qualified Deck officer for 12. I used to be less confient, relied on checklists and procedures and often did not understand why I did everything that convention dictaed that I do. Now I have experience and seen some others standards (lower and higher) I feel naked if I do not cross check the GPS position once and hour, and take a star sighed position whenever possible.

Maybe not relevant exactly for your occupation, but the gist is that of knowlege and preparation.

Good luck!

 

[IDB1]

if you constantly thought it was easy, you will fail.

I don't agree with that at all... the likelihood may well be increased but it's not a dead cert.

 

[silverclaws]

Confidence comes from knowlege and fore thought.
The US Military use the adage:
Plan the plan,
Train the plan,
Fight the plan.

It works, think it through, work everything out at the most disadvatageous to you (taxes, losses, interest rates etc) and if it still breaks even then GO!

I am a Navigating Officer in the Merchant Navy, there are so many variables at sea, but if you can pin down everything you can then whatever left is fated.

Most of the time I am very confident in my own descision making, this is contagious and the Capt relies on my calculations and passage planning as I have never given him reason to doubt it.

The last time I was genuinely not confident I had rushed my preparation on the approach to a narrow channel, when I got there the tide was 2kts across the entrance, wind was force 6-7 from astern and the vizibility was less than 2 miles. I had anticipated being able to visually asses my progress and had not bothered to chart and prepare radar targets etc as well as I would normally do. Never doing that again! Everything worked out ok, but a bit of luck and thank GOD for GPS!!!!

I have been at sea for 16 years, Trained for 4 and have been a qualified Deck officer for 12. I used to be less confient, relied on checklists and procedures and often did not understand why I did everything that convention dictaed that I do. Now I have experience and seen some others standards (lower and higher) I feel n*ked if I do not cross check the GPS position once and hour, and take a star sighed position whenever possible.

Maybe not relevant exactly for your occupation, but the gist is that of knowlege and preparation.

Good luck!

Thank You and thank You to all,

But a nav in the merchant navy an enviable position at one time, as my father was a nav officer and his father before that and somewhere down the line a family member on Cutty Sark, his name was there on a brass plate on the deck before it burned. From a mariner family I was to become a land lubber when Ocean fleets booted me out after losing two ships in '85. I was doing an engineer apprenticeship for Ocean fleets in Aigburth college in Liverpool, where I was the last in the country to take and pass a GCE 'o' level in seamanship.

But back to that it seems, marine engineering of a sorts, my plan involves the often unloved and uncared for tender outboards, a service I can offer. But my skills have somehow managed to get me the job of fixing an old diesel that is fitted to a 1900 recently restored Cornish fishing smack, the motor itself near on sixty years old and the job of resident blacksmith with a working sail society, when that gets off the ground. Also some dance related costume jewellery for the dance group I am with and interest from some famous international dancers too. Also ceremonial daggers for a Druid group If I can get this thing going, it will cross a fair few lines of business, as it is my belief in order to survive in this day and age, streams of income is the way forward.

You see, although I lack the confidence in my abilities, others have confidence in me, I wondered if it was because I felt because I found what I am skilled at easy and an enjoyment to do, I expect others to think the same, as if it is I really don't know anything at all. I keep getting told by others I am multi skilled and work to a high standard, but I dont seem to believe that in myself, one a part time harbour master skilled in other areas has already offered to publicise my abilities for free, I dont know what to think, as the past is littered with put downs and pass offs and now after everyone has suggested what on my question, I am really beginning to think it is very much a case of this ;

"Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond
measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves,
who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, handsome, talented, and fabulous? Actually,
who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve
the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't
feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God within
us. It is not just in some; it is in everyone. And, as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated
from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

By Marianne Williamson

I have been wondering at it for a while, I know somewhere it is true, but seeing the truth and acting on it are two different things it seems to me.

 

[cyfa2809]

sutton harbour?