Do you ever feel you've been a dick?

Isaac_AG":o86kznt9 said:
... thirty years later it still makes me feel disgusting and ashamed.

Alison

Sorry Al, but I just don't understand that mind set...

...when I was 17 I was working at British Steel in Staveley when I was 'accosted' by another worker, no witnesses around; he was a hulking great black guy, married, also had a second hand shop up the road (I even remember what I bought there before this happened). Wasn't as serious as it could have been because after the initial shock/embarrassment I was still big enough to look after myself.

40+ years later I am neither sexually confused, homophobic, nor racist. It was just one of those things, move on, put it down to experience... :|
 
It must be great if your able to move on as you say but that is not always possible if your not a strong person. I have three things I will never learn to live with, including a couple of failed pregnancies, and in some ways it's like telling a depressive to get on with it and move on, I'm such a person, and I just like many, many people, there may never be a move on.

Anyway it's getting depressing now opps :D
 
It was the tail-end of 1977, I had led a relatively sheltered upbringing and didn't even realise such things happened; of course I knew what 'Poofs' were and what they did but I didn't know there was such a thing as a predatory bi-sexual.

I'd even only known one black kid at school, and even he didn't like me because I had to stop one of the school 'Hardos' from giving him a kicking in the classroom after 'home time' one afternoon in the 5th Year!

What happened to me wasn't my fault, I was just in the wrong place at the wrong time; apparently he was renowned for it, often taking the young new-starters up into his crane for whatever! Seems it was something of a right of passage, bit like Public School :roll:

I certainly wasn't going to let it overshadow my life, even if recalling it now it seems like only yesterday. Of course I was embarrassed and ashamed at the time, but as I became more worldly-wise it was easier to compartmentalise the experience; basically, far more interesting experiences were to follow and put it into perspective (all involving either girls or guns it has to be said! ;) ).

At least now, when berated by those of a narrow-minded feminist bent I can turn around and say "Well actually, yes, I do know what it's like so..."
 
I'm no feminist, I believe that women should be paid the same for the same job but other than that we are very different in so many ways. I once opened the door to a woman and thinking I was a lad I got the "I'm perfectly capable of doing it myself, I hate men that think I can't do things for myself" :roll: I just try not to make judgements about people :) I'm not suggesting you do though

Alison
 
...nor was I suggesting you were a feminist ;)

FWIW; when I was little it used to really wind my Mother up when people would say "Ooh, hasn't he got lovely eyes! He should have been a girl..."

Even when I was in my late teens the girls used to like it that I had 'Sophia Loren-eyes!' Not that I ever played on it... :p
 
We_are_Stevo":3b5izfe2 said:
...nor was I suggesting you were a feminist ;)

FWIW; when I was little it used to really wind my Mother up when people would say "Ooh, hasn't he got lovely eyes! He should have been a girl..."

Even when I was in my late teens the girls used to like it that I had 'Sophia Loren-eyes!' Not that I ever played on it... :p

:LOL: My sister always used to say BITD that I had Gary Lineker's legs :oops: I'd much rather have had Sophie's eyes :D

Alison
 
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