Tazio":lrw79klc said:Isaac_AG":lrw79klc said:I've been so worried all day, every one else has had the computer today, about what I wrote. The History Man said posting when drunk is dangerous, I'll add posting when so emotional is dangerousA few times in 21 years I've got the worst end of the stick, but verbally I've given a lot too. To the person who said how can something so trivial get so bad? i don't know it just did :shock: as to violence in a relationship I don't think it's acceptable from either quarter, but in our case it's few and far between, I just happen to be the weaker of the two
Alison
It is never right Alison but if it becomes a habit it can be a hard one to break.
The first serious relationship of my adult life ended because of domestic violence. We lived together for five years but the last two were a hellish time because of it as it became more and more common. This however was the type that isn't reported often but is more common than people think. I was the victim of my girlfriends violence, she was suffering from depression due to eating disorders and when drunk though nothing of lashing out and attacking me when we argued, normally started by her being a jealous person. I was brought up to never hit a woman and I'm proud to say I never have. To this day I have a scar on my face where I was punched hard in the face as I slept.
If nothing else you have to speak to someone you trust face to face. You can in time start to believe everyone has that type of argument escalation, they don't.
Sorry if that sounds like I'm lecturing but you need to work it out as you have children and a family is a wonderful thing to have.
I guess this is the thing. I once called my GP because Dom hit me so hard I couldn't put my glasses on, I was in the middle of a serious mental problem and was using the only way of dealing with it, it came out as verbal and aggressive I used serious self harm also to deal with it to the point I collapsed many times to have almost a full body transfusion. This is a situation that any man would find almost impossible to cope with, let alone finding me almost comatosed after an overdose. I would kill me if I was him for what I've put him through. We are both to blame, it's just he forgets that he can inflict so much more injury to me than I can ever inflict to him.
Alison
