Now, having worked for some famous (mostly defunct) Hifi brands, I have NEVER come across females into our silly hobby - I worked in sales, installation, design, support, shows at Earls Court and everything...
not one female of the species.....
Depending on the sophistication of the equipment, if you dont have room for a sub, big front speakers will be able to do the grunty stuff. You tell the amp/ processor 'no sub installed' - it should then pass the .5 LFE channel through the main front L & R
I do have a lot of boy hobbies! I don't think my mum approves though, she can't understand why I have "drainpipes" running around the edge of the room
However she is very good about making my black out blinds for me
Sub is definitely required, room isn't that small, it's just not the whacking great extension it was in when I bought it originally. I should fiddle about setting it up properly again to be honest but it sounds fab as it is so there is no real drive to do it... Besides, I'm not going to 'store' a grands worth of sub!!
'97 Cannondale Killer V + pretty bits