If it's a "buy it now" and I really want it, I buy it but don't pay until the seller has answered all my questions and sent through a detailed set of high res photographs, which I take my time going over. I only pay when I'm satisfied that I'm getting what I think I'm getting.
I would tell you to bugger off and pay as per the agreed terms. You bid to buy, not to fanny about asking questions. In this example you're not taking your time, you're taking the seller's, and that only appropriate before you buy, if at all.
If it's a collect only I take my phone and computer and pay only when I've seen and inspected the item.
You bid to buy. As long as the description matches the item. And why do you take your computer??? Sellers must love you turning up.
If I win the auction and I get a message from the seller within an hour or so hassling me to pay I pull out.
Because you like to take your time again? You sound a right wank. Most sellers want paid quickly. Most buyers want to pay quickly so they receive quickly. You have no right to pull out because a seller asks you for payment, what the f**k else are they going to do? Out of interest what arbitrary timescale do you deem acceptable?
Goes to show for every shit seller there is a shit buyer too.
What's your Ebay name so I can block you from buying?
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