Retrobike Forum Index

It is currently Fri Dec 02, 2016 7:14 pm

* Login   * Register * Search  * FAQ



Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 16 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2
Author Message
 Post subject: Re: Is it my fault
PostPosted: Thu Sep 26, 2013 1:05 pm 
Karma Queen / Cake Meisterin
Karma Queen / Cake Meisterin
User avatar

Joined: Thu Jul 27, 2006 10:02 pm
Posts: 6736
Location: North Yorkshire
ajm wrote:
Kerplunk wrote:
She may not want to talk to you or your husband but may be able to talk to a counsellor knowing thats its in confidence and can't be repeated to anyone including you.


Sorry, but that's not true. You'd be surprised at just how much that's said "in confidence" to teachers, doctors, school guidance counsellors etc is reported up the chain, whether or not that action is actually likely to help the person in question.


That's something that worries me, I went to the GP for myself, who referred me to a psychologist, who insisted I saw a psychiatrist, who made an assessment then asked to see me and my husband together, I never went home for another 4.5 months, I was sectioned. Everything just went completely out of my control so quickly, I've been a little afraid of them since.

Alison


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Is it my fault
PostPosted: Thu Sep 26, 2013 2:08 pm 
Special Retro Guru
Special Retro Guru
User avatar

Joined: Mon Sep 29, 2008 11:34 am
Posts: 5663
Location: Don't mess with monkeys, man
Isaac_AG wrote:
ajm wrote:
Kerplunk wrote:
She may not want to talk to you or your husband but may be able to talk to a counsellor knowing thats its in confidence and can't be repeated to anyone including you.


Sorry, but that's not true. You'd be surprised at just how much that's said "in confidence" to teachers, doctors, school guidance counsellors etc is reported up the chain, whether or not that action is actually likely to help the person in question.


That's something that worries me, I went to the GP for myself, who referred me to a psychologist, who insisted I saw a psychiatrist, who made an assessment then asked to see me and my husband together, I never went home for another 4.5 months, I was sectioned. Everything just went completely out of my control so quickly, I've been a little afraid of them since.

Alison


I don't think it's overreacting to seek professional help over your child self-harming - especially as it seems like a 2nd generation problem, too.

Thing is, are you projecting your own history and worries / anxiety on the situation? You may well be able to speak to somebody, first, without dragging her into it. But given you've had such issues, and now your daughter does, I wouldn't let it slide. People often think they know best, when the reality can be farm from the truth.

I'm not saying that healthcare professions and similar never get things wrong, nor overreact - but all the same, try to put yourself outside the situation for a second, be objective, ignore history, and think what's best for your daughter.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Is it my fault
PostPosted: Thu Sep 26, 2013 8:41 pm 
Old School Grand Master
User avatar

Joined: Wed Apr 12, 2006 12:33 pm
Posts: 11103
Location: The Home Of Mountain Biking, And All Great Things.
It is not a choice when it comes to a child, you are duty bound to take the matter to a professional. I really would underline it is the responsible thing to do, I cannot envisage a scenario where there would be any alternative that would reflect well on a parent.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Is it my fault
PostPosted: Thu Sep 26, 2013 8:51 pm 
Retro Guru

Joined: Wed May 27, 2009 10:41 am
Posts: 637
Given Alison's own experiences you can fully understand her concerns. But her experience won't necessarily be the same for her daughter and nothing is lost by putting the suggestion to her even if she turns it down. Getting help now may prevent it escalating now or later in life.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Is it my fault
PostPosted: Fri Sep 27, 2013 12:32 am 
BoTY Winner
BoTY Winner

Joined: Tue Jan 17, 2012 8:50 pm
Posts: 315
Location: United States
Gawd. Not this again.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Is it my fault
PostPosted: Sat Sep 28, 2013 12:46 am 
Karma Queen / Cake Meisterin
Karma Queen / Cake Meisterin
User avatar

Joined: Thu Jul 27, 2006 10:02 pm
Posts: 6736
Location: North Yorkshire
I've been upset about this all day, doubtless your intention, I've been scared of saying anything knowing I'd be slagged off, doubtless of your intention, obviously you've been waiting a response so you can make me feel Shiite more than I already do, I know there are many here that would do the same, but there are twice as many who don't.

This is not the same as it is not about me. If I were to delete all the messages on this OT site that were repeated over again half would go. My mum said "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all" that is why I never insult ever, just to insult, everything I say when it's personal, and believe me there is a lot of personal threads on this site, even if Raging Bulls hates anything on Off Topic other than bikes, from many bikers to fill the Albert Hall and that's why it is called off topic. I'm sorry you decided to insult me because, well I don't really know, but perhaps you should refrain from reading my threads and i'll do the same. Live long and prosper :)

Alison


Top
 Profile  
 
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 16 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2

All times are UTC [ DST ]


Who is online

Users browsing this forum: longun, Mike Muz 67, STANDISH and 37 guests


You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot post attachments in this forum

Search for:
Jump to:  

About Us

Follow Retrobike

Other cool stuff

All content © 2005-2015 Retrobike unless otherwise stated.
Cookies Policy.
bikedeals - the best bike deals in one place
FatCOGS - Fat Chance Owner's Group

Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group