Unfortunate that you didn't take note of the moral in the bottom line of your sig. some time ago...
...worst case scenario; once she gets her head around the reality of the situation there is a good chance of your child growing up not knowing who you are.
My two were 2 and 4 when I took the difficult decision to leave; I had forged an emotional bond that never broke (entirely) despite the years of bitter recriminations that followed
They are now 28 and 30, and a credit to their mother; and the best kids a bloke could ever hope to have. It didn't always look like turning out that way!
Some of the guys on here have met Karl and can testify as to what a nice bloke he is, despite what his parents put him through for so long! Tracie is two years older and seemingly bullet proof!
I am proud of them both, and constantly in awe of what mine and their mother's genes created!