Many thanks so far..........
She has PSD from a previous relationship and that only used to manifest as anger when she drank, but it comes out all the time now, if i'm helpful i get shit if i get things wrong i get shit, and i mean full on anger, and undoing anything i have tried to do.
She has only just started to see a counseller after promising to do that for years.
She basically has wanted me there to cook, clean, wash up, tidy up over the years (the woman has never been able to close a draw, never mind clear up after a baby)........some of my mental health clients have more home skills than her and they are classed as needing support in their living, i could post up pics of the daily mess i have to clear up over the years but i won't.
It's dangerous for the babe, some of the the stuff she leaves on the floor,
When i leave the place is going to be like a squat, unless by having full control, something will kick in and she'll be tidy, but like her mum said, she has always been like that.
No, i've seen too many people get angry, i only have love and understanding for my son, she has said that she will never cause issue about seeing him, but i know that might change when a solicitor starts telling her what she should be doing.
I have just started working again and hoped that would help, but she has made friends with 2 people heading for the same thing, with terrible sounding husbands, that tell their wifes who they can and can't see who never help out and go out all the time etc............i'm the total opposite, always happy for her to do her own thing, and encouraged her to go back into education, but now i am one of those bad men, she has been inflluenced i feel as she has told me her friends have said we should break up.
So after being told to leave a few times now, for silly things like if i didn't put my rucksack or paperwork out of sight...(i have about 1 metre square in the whole of the flat for my stuff) and can never find a place to sit, because her sprawl covers all seating........i tidy and the next day or afternoon, a new mess appears, things hangingout of draws, clothes all over the floor, things on top of things till it all falls over..........tired of it.
Voodoo Erzulie 19.5" bit too big looking for 18.5" steel Voodoo
Lots of memory bikes !
That is what I mean, if you think I meant something different....well,that is in you head , not mine !
Just think of all the people that would agree with each other, but can't because they don't speak the same language