err.... im at a loss here, the day my daughter tells me to shut up is the day she will regret for a long time, I dont buy into this spare the rod bollox, hell we want to give our kids the stuff we never had right, but that stuff gets taken back and back and back until she either learns or she ends up having to stay in with just a bed in the bedroom. my stubbornness will out weigh hers as Im not the one losing stuff.
she wants money, go out with her friends, the latest whatever? then she has to earn it and the way she does that is by not being a brat. you one sounds like she is rebelling at something but she isnt quite sure what it is so while she figures it out any passing traffic will do. im watching exactly this going on with my nieces and their dad, I intervened and told them they need to wind their necks in as he has feelings too. it seems t have worked although for how long I'm not sure.
you need to start restricting her privileges and now or its gonna get worse, start with the things she holds in high value, mobile phone going out etc and keep restricting them until she starts to see reason, but mean it, don't ground her for a week and let her go out 3 days later, a week is a week. she will have time to think. I reckon she is trying to be the alpha here and needs to be brought down to earth.
I think she does live in a difficult environment, she lives miles from town, miles from her friends and is basically stuck in the house with two younger siblings and her boring parents, so grounding her would never work there is nothing to ground her from. her mobile is something she does not use much, most of the time she forgets it's there
she talks to her friends mainly on Facebook. I think though I'll have to threaten this port if nothing else is working, before she is to old to influence.
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