Alison, your husband might be repeating behavior from what his parents did or how he was treated as a child...........you would both benefit from getting this out in the open with the correct people, your relationship could be a better one for both of you if you both seek the correct advice........you may have to do this yourself if your husband does not want to face up to things right now ...........good luck.
Actually his childhood was quite good, although his parents split when he was about three, his mum brought them up well, she was no more than the odd pat on the bum sort, she was a bitter and twisted woman as far as her ex husband was concerned but she was never aggressive with the children, and his dad is a really wonderful man. No, I've known him from playgroup and used to stay at their house in the school summer holidays. OK is mum is a bit weird and can't stand me, thinks her son could have done so much better, she was sooo angry when we said we were getting married and will never forgive me for destroying her son's potential
I can be a really nasty person too when angry, saying things I really feel shit about afterwords. the thing is 99.9 times out of ten everything is hunky dory, then it's not
I think the answer is never to discuss opinions.
Thanks for all the support it's meant a lot.
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