And I know for sure that the ultimatum strategy would be a losing ticket.
But really it's not the money as such. It's the whole thing that suggests that "those not involved" are at a lower spiritual level and it's the manipulation that's the problem.
What I really need is coping strategies.
OK so its not about the money, an ultimatum is a nono. Maybe a nudge in the right direction? What about doing a yoga course together? It might be good for you both to spend time together in this neutral space. She might get really into it and forget about ST Michael.