highlandsflyer wrote:
Kids just want attention, and whatever way they can get it.
Trick is to positively reinforce the good, and limit reinforcement of the negative, whilst avoiding undermining what might be a tactic for self confidence.
I think that's it, when I was a kid my mum had very little time for us, the funny thing is she and my step dad ran a holiday home for underprivileged children and she was magnificent to them, and we helped all through our childhood. I think she felt that we were lucky children doing fine, and these special cases needed all of her attention, as far as I was concerned she could not have been more wrong. If I could turn back time now I'd have her make me do my homework and support me in my studies, that is what I try to do with my winkles.
Alison
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