I have been involved in the gay scene, have gay family, gay ex partners, etc.
It is not as simple as some of the statements here suggest.
There ARE some people who 'choose' to be 'gay', I would guess a small number but I have known a few.
This is sometimes peer pressure, sometimes a reaction to life experiences.
The important thing is to respect that choice, and not to suggest there is a choice for everyone.
I am not bisexual, but I do not see sexuality as static. It is dynamic, but for practical purposes it makes sense for some to fix their position.
My step brother was the stud of the town until he was twenty nine, when he decided to go gay.
He was very political about it until I took him down to live in Manchester, and he realised he was not the only gay in the village.
Five years later he went straight again.
An unusual story, but one I am well acquainted with.
I have had several ex partners who are now gay.
And others who were.
My conclusion is that sexuality is fluid. From my research.
This is why I never argue for accepting gays on the basis they were 'born that way' and 'can't help it'.
As far as I am concerned everyone should accept whatever anyone does that does not harm them or the world around them.
I am deliriously happy with my marriage, but I could be happy with many of the gay men I have known.
Jones was so wrong when he suggested "They don't like it up 'em"!
Very well put, I would however dispute the implication that some gay people can change their sexuality to suit, that makes them bisexual surely ?