I agree, you have said your piece, and that is all you can do. I would write them a letter of apology, explaining that you see thier side, and you will let the matter drop. Let them know that you admire them, and will be there for them if they need help. I would reckon that they do feel somewhat helpless.
I have been through the same family drama involving a sibling abusing my parents. It is important that your grandparents feel not alone.
so what you are saying is i should apologise for them telling me to dig my son up from his grave and move him elsewhere and thats putting in terms acceptable for the forum the words used where more harsh.
yeah i felt guilty at first but not any more rest assured i dont anymore and oh well mores the pity looks like neighbours have taken things into there own hands as i was woken up at 5:50am with a phone call accusing me of doing it sad thing is i never as wife was on nights and i got 4 kids who i wouldnt leave in house alone to do it, but would like to shake the hand the people that did do it.
so no letter of apology they can all rot in hell before that ever happens as i aint done anything so why should i[/quote]