Another thing to try may be Triathlon sites/suppliers, since it's a very tech. sport with high female participation.
Tri stuff will be no good, the girly knicks are designed with not much padding as they have to swim and run in them, and the saddles are designed so that you sit more on the nose.
If you can find a shop which will let you trial a few saddles. This is what we did before deciding on the saddle mentioned above (the shop is question wanted to be seen to be help female customers). After doing a bit of testing and measurement Miss Jane found that a lot of the women's specifc saddles where exactly the same as the mens where you actually sit and are only shorter in the nose some cost more than the comparative mens version and others where particularly uncomfortable and didn't seem to have anyones body or comfort in mind when they were designed.
So if you can find a shop which will look after you and let you try a few saddles and pick the one which suits you best. You may find that you'll have to spend a few dollars more to get the comfort you want but in the end its worth it.